PARLIN, N.J. — The abrupt cancellation of football season at a New Jersey prep powerhouse signaled something more than locker room hijinks. Now seven teens are facing sex crime charges as this solidly middle-class town and its beloved football program find themselves at the center of the broader debate over how to deal with hazing.
The school’s superintendent says abuse by the Sayreville War Memorial High School students was so pervasive he had no choice but to call off the season for a team that has won three sectional titles in four years. His decision angered team parents but drew applause from advocates who called it the kind of bold stand necessary to confront hazing.
No coaches have been charged, and it isn’t clear if any knew about the alleged incidents. In his first public comments, head coach George Najjar told the Star-Ledger of Newark that he would comment on the allegations but that “now is not the time.”Najjar could not be reached by telephone Oct. 11.
The allegations involved attacks on four students over a 10-day span last month, authorities said. Six defendants were arrested Oct. 10 and the seventh surrendered Oct. 11. Their names were not released.
One of the attacks involved sexual penetration upon one of the alleged victims, Middlesex County prosecutor Andrew C. Carey said.
In a statement on the arrests, Superintendent Richard Labbe said the district will “come together as a school district and greater community to harness the strength required to support the young men who may have been victimized and then to begin the healing process for our beloved community.”
Stuart Green, founder of the New Jersey Coalition for Bullying Awareness and Prevention, praised Labbe’s decision as one that could change the conversation on the issue of bullying.
Though he sympathized with those who feel it unfair to punish an entire team, Green said responsibility for such conduct generally extends beyond the individual players.
“When these problems arise they’re never primarily a function of the individual kids or players,” he said. “These problems primarily arise because of the behaviors of the adults and leaders who manage these environments.”
The arrests came four days after the rest of the season was called off, prompting angry responses from parents of players. At an emotional school board meeting Oct. 7th, some players denied seeing any of the alleged incidents occurring, and one parent said the cancellation “victimizes the kids who had nothing to do with it.”
Reports of hazing surface regularly around the country, but rarely do they result in a sports season’s cancellation.
One well-publicized exception was Mepham High School on New York’s Long Island, which canceled its 2003 season after reports of alleged sexual assaults by upperclassmen on younger players during a pre-season trip to Pennsylvania.
Steve Timko, Executive Director of the New Jersey State Interscholastic Athletic Association, said he couldn’t recall any seasons being forfeited because of hazing-related allegations in his 38 years involved with scholastic sports in the state.
Hazing can be hard to define and harder to detect precisely because it occurs within the confines of a closed group such as a team, fraternity or sorority that wields it as a requisite for inclusion, experts say.
“Getting to the root of the problem is difficult when victims, for the most part, are trying to become part of an inner group,” said Brendan Dwyer, Assistant Professor at Virginia Commonwealth University’s Center For Sport Leadership and a former college football coach. “They’re willing to be part of a hazing ritual if they’re going to be accepted on a team.”
Sayreville now faces the disorienting prospect of an autumn without its football team, a point of pride in the community and one of the forces that helped restore a sense of continuity after Superstorm Sandy caused massive flooding two years ago.
An anti-bullying rally was planned for the night of Oct. 12 in the park across the street from the high school. Holly Emory, whose son has played for the team the last two years, said parents have asked those attending not to wear Bombers gear so they don’t “pour salt in the wound.”
Emory said playing high school football has given her 15-year-old son an obvious confidence that wasn’t there before and she hopes the allegations aren’t true.
“All the things that you sign your kids up for sports for, we witnessed in the past two years,” she said.
(DAVID PORTER and SEAN CARLIN)